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you have to suck it up at work?
i know i am a brat by nature, and that i am totally used to running my own company. these things are givens. so i am on this team now (my name is even in the title,) and something happened today that i didn't like. i felt like i was being kinda shafted - or at least not told the whole truth. when i said something about it, there were a bunch of apologies and stuff. and i was told i was right. but i still feel like saying fuck this. i am an independent contractor producing like crazy, and what the hell is this shit? i am also aware that i am a commitment-phobe, so the very inception of this team was a challenge for me, and i should take a breath before i take my marbles and go home.

so how often do normal people feel lke throwing a trash can across the desk at their co-workers and going finding something to do for a living which doesn't involve holding their feelings in? or other humans?

anyone got any insight?

EDIT: the only reason i meantion my name being in the title is that THIS was a big step for me, too -- commitment-wise. attaching my name to other people's actions. not to sound all bragging. which i just realized it might have. thank you.

I haven't really felt that way in years. Three years in a call center getting yelled at every day by customers made me very tolerant of the more mild forms of torture I get these days.

But my Dad's family have never played well with others. He and his two siblings all went into business for themselves; they're just too hard headed to get along any other way.

Your post reminds me of the group projects I am sometimes forced to do at school. I hate them. Either everyone else is a dumbass and I end up doing all the work, or someone else tries to take over and the project sucks. I imagine it's not unlike group projects in the real world.

Often.

I can't stand working with my boss.

Most of the managers I am supposed to help with the "feel-good" aspects of working here (recognition, volunteerism, involvement, communication) are uninterested.

Most of the employees I am supposed to help feel included are ungrateful.

I feel unappreciated, for the most part.

However, I get great vacation time and benefits, and the pay is very fair. Aside from my manager, I LOVE the people in my department. I love getting to do community and volunteer stuff. I am in school to change careers in a few years, so I stay.

You just have to weigh the pros and cons, I guess.

And you're likely to change too quickly and I'm likely to stay too long -- so we're probably opposites when it comes to this stuff!

- Mere "just today, I sent a resume for a different job here" 1975

I like my job. I make good money. I enjoy great benefits.
But yeah, I get like that. I'd like to check out and do something new.
But I'm like that with my town, my house, my country.
I get worried that I'm not a risk taker.
If I was as daring as I'd like to be... I would move to Vanuatu. That thread is part jest... and part truth.



And there's no other place to really share this, but lately I've been brown bagging it at work to save money. I opened my lunch bag today and it totally smelled like elementary school.

And there's no other place to really share this, but lately I've been brown bagging it at work to save money. I opened my lunch bag today and it totally smelled like elementary school.

YAY! i love that. i brown bag all the time. makes me feel smart. and i cook better than arby.

i talked wth my partner and we got things worked out. basically the deal was that i found out offhandedly something i should have been told directly. there is no question about that, and apologies were made. but it made me feel like trust was severely breached, and i began to seriously second guess the decision i made to become equal partners with someone else.

also, we have another girl on the team who has been making 1/3 of whatever comes in. she has netted 14, yes FOURTEEN times what she has brought to the closing table. which has cut my commissions in half. weird how the math works out, but it does. so i told my partner that i am not down with the third girl taking that big of a cut anymore. it is just stupid, financially. when i put it that way, after doing the math, my partner agreed that we needed to find another way to compensate the third girl. big time.

so that, coupled with the politics of this thing where i felt shafted made me wanna cut and run. but i'm not gonna. for now.

y'all make me feel less crazy, though. thanks.