Dear forum,
Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 4:35 am
I want to apologize to everyone for my recent abrasive comments/behavior. I think I've gotten into the habit of writing and speaking like I do in school, which is to say my opinion as if it's fact. First of all, I don't assume anyone cares that much about what I think. In fact, I assume probably nobody cares--at least not enough to be offended by what I say. So I guess I haven't been very careful about whether I am being rude. Because I thought everyone knew that half the time I am just saying whatever pops into my head and it's almost never a serious criticism. And even when it is, I'm usually exaggerating and making broad idealistic statements without bothering to mention all the obvious exceptions. I don't mean to sound so dismissive of other people's opinions. I am interested in everyone's responses.
It really took me by surprise, because I used to throw around the n-word (towards white people) and "dyke" (towards men) every 5 seconds and say that anything I didn't like was gay and no one seemed offended by that, but my opinions are suddenly controversial. I was totally not expecting it. I still feel like I'm the baby on the forum and everyone is like, "Oh, that's cute. She thinks things," and doesn't take me seriously. I didn't realize my words hold so much power... And/or I didn't realize I was being annoying by stating my opinions so forcefully. Whichever one is true.
So, to sum up:
1)I didn't know I was being so overbearing
2)I talk out of my ass a lot and my opinion changes all the time
3)I like my friends and don't want to be an ass hole
4)I'm sorry.
p.s. no need to respond to this
p.p.s. this summer is probably the last period of time i'll have for self-reflection for a long long time. so in the future (and now anyway), feel free to PM me if I offend you or if I am being a bitch so that I'm aware of it or can explain myself. Let's just say I don't expect my upcoming course loads to improve my communication skills.
It really took me by surprise, because I used to throw around the n-word (towards white people) and "dyke" (towards men) every 5 seconds and say that anything I didn't like was gay and no one seemed offended by that, but my opinions are suddenly controversial. I was totally not expecting it. I still feel like I'm the baby on the forum and everyone is like, "Oh, that's cute. She thinks things," and doesn't take me seriously. I didn't realize my words hold so much power... And/or I didn't realize I was being annoying by stating my opinions so forcefully. Whichever one is true.
So, to sum up:
1)I didn't know I was being so overbearing
2)I talk out of my ass a lot and my opinion changes all the time
3)I like my friends and don't want to be an ass hole
4)I'm sorry.
p.s. no need to respond to this
p.p.s. this summer is probably the last period of time i'll have for self-reflection for a long long time. so in the future (and now anyway), feel free to PM me if I offend you or if I am being a bitch so that I'm aware of it or can explain myself. Let's just say I don't expect my upcoming course loads to improve my communication skills.
